This is just a rant against Type A people trying to be in charge of everything & everyone. I have come to slow, (very slow as it has taken me a lifetime) realization that most of my relatives & faux relatives are of the Type A variety. One in particular, (although she is but a faux relative, is the mother of two active Type A preteens, and works full time in a demanding field & position) has tried to completely take over any and all parts of the celebration for my mother's 90th birthday this summer. It'll be at her home, she'll make all the food, do all the decorating, decide who to invite, reject my idea of family t-shirts, then when realizing others are on the t-shirt bandwagon tell me her husband will get them printed, tell me what design & colors she wants, harass me over details (thickness of shirt, buying extras, my daughter should pick them up at her home, is it a surprise, ad infinitum). She thinks she's in charge of deciding who stays where & with whom. I can't possibly have an open house brunch on the same day as her dinner ... it'll be too much for mom, she already has that date, I can change it or else they'll move theirs to another day (which is already scheduled with church & mom's invitational luncheon. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! I warned you that this one would be a rant & this is only one out of many rels & faux-rels vying for the title of most controlling.